July 23, 2015
Disclaimer: Let me immediately acknowledge that I have no legitimate credentials for giving marital advice. But, I do have plenty of experience in both marriage and mattresses so here goes it:
It’s okay to go to bed angry.
You’ve probably heard that you shouldn’t do this, but I beg to differ. Late at night, when you’re tired and crabby, is not the optimal time for dealing with touchy subjects. It’s hard to be reasonable and forgiving when you can’t keep your eyes open.
In fact, we posted recently about a University of Michigan study that discussed how the lack of sleep affects your tolerance and ability to control impulsive behavior. I say, keep quiet and go to sleep. Agree to discuss the issue in the morning, after you’re both well rested and in better control of your emotions.
Spend more time together in your bedroom.
Make your bedroom conducive to “us” time.
It’s interesting how so many people will spend the time and effort to make sure the public rooms in the house are presentable, i.e., clean and decorated, yet stop at the master bedroom since “no one sees it but us.” If the thought is to spend more time in your bedroom, make it an attractive, tranquil place that you’ll want to be in. This doesn’t have to involve spending a lot of money. Simply putting away folded laundry, removing clutter (like stray shoes, kid toys and piles of magazines), lighting a candle and putting on fresh sheets can go along way in making your room more of a pleasant retreat. If you want to takes things further, check out these 70 master bedroom decorating ideas from Good Housekeeping.
Buy a bigger bed.
Some people like to snuggle when they go to sleep. Other people, like me, need to spread out in order to get comfortable enough to fall asleep. The best way to avoid fighting about “sides” with a bed hog is through prevention: get the largest mattress you can afford and/or fit in your room. It’s so worth it.
Before you get too excited, understand that you will have to compromise on many, many (did I say many?) things during the course of your relationship (at least if you want it to last!). But your mattress isn’t one of them. Both of you can be wonderfully selfish and get exactly what you want – if you have a Verlo mattress. Since we make all our mattresses to be adjustable, it’s no big deal for us to make one side of the bed softer and the other firmer. It’s a win for both of you. Fabulous.
Address snoring issues. Now.
If you or your partner snores, you know firsthand the problems snoring can cause. One of the things you can try is an Adjustable Base that elevates the head to open up the airways. Verlo offers several Adjustable Bases that feature an actual anti-snore position. At the touch of a button, you can raise your head or your partner’s to help reduce snoring.
There you have it – unsolicited marital advice from a mattress company employee. Perhaps, I should just stick to what I know best: mattresses. You be the judge.